Many women think that if a man does not love a woman, then what signs will indicate his attitude towards her. But there is nothing complicated here. Even no matter how a man hides his lack of feelings behind beautiful words, they will be unnatural, like clichés.
- If a man loves a woman, then his feelings are seething, emotions sparkle, he is ready for a lot for the sake of his beloved woman. She will always come first for him. And hence the increased attention to her, ranging from care, support, ending with a pleasant pastime, romance, intimate conversations.
- True, each man expresses feelings differently. But the essence here is the same, increased attention to a woman, she fills all his thoughts, feelings, fantasies, attention. And naturally, he wants to make her life as comfortable, convenient and happy as possible.
- If a man does not love a woman, then interest in her disappears or he consumer level, for example, he can use it, manipulate it, subordinate it. To make her submit to his selfish desires.
- If a man does not love a woman, then in any case, indifference, indifference to her life, mood, feelings will be manifested. She ceases to exist for him as a person, a person. He can see her as just a friend, a friend. And if love disappears in the family, then the relationship becomes purely formal, then the attitude towards a woman can be like a housekeeper.
- In addition to indifference, callousness, ruthlessness, a dismissive and disrespectful attitude towards a woman appear. Can be rude, mock with words, mock.
- When a man does not love a woman, he pays less attention to her, or does not pay it at all, and he often has no time. You can immediately feel this by his alienation, he seems to be moving away, living more with his own life and interests.
- It is quite natural that you will not expect any pleasant gifts, surprises from him. Usually such relationships are psychologically exhausting, when, for example, a woman loves, but a man does not experience anything. As a result, one feels emptiness, despair, hopelessness, it is noticeable that relations do not develop, but only worsen.
Can a man love and ignore
If a man truly loves, and his love is sincere, pure, then it makes no sense for him to ignore, hide something, hide something. Unless, of course, he is playing with a woman, trying to use or manipulate her.
Sharp contrasts in behavior, as well as ignorance, are characteristic of manipulation, when the goal is to subdue a woman, to persuade her to her opinion so that she does the same as a man wants.
But it happens that a man cannot show his feelings openly, this may be hindered by external circumstances, for example, he has a family. Or there are internal reasons, for example, modesty, insecurity, indecision, negative experiences from past relationships, fear of being rejected again. Then a man can love, but pretend to ignore. But this ignoring will be strained, feigned, unnatural.
Why doesn't a man take the first step?
If a man does not take the first step, then he either does not want a relationship, he does not have feelings, or he does not know how to show feelings, open up, take this first step. Perhaps he is unsure of his feelings or is afraid that he will be rejected, does not see prospects for the development of relations.
Why does a man not kiss on the lips
There are not many answers why a man does not kiss on the lips. The most common reason lies in the lack of love or such a desire to kiss on the lips. Not all men like excessive displays of tenderness, this includes kissing on the lips.
Or he is embarrassed in front of a woman, does not know how to approach her, kiss her on the lips. Especially if she really likes her, he experiences shyness, shyness, awkwardness next to her.
Why does a man lose interest in a woman
Nothing in life lasts forever, even the wonderful relationships themselves need development, without this they fade. But they can worsen especially faster when passion, falling in love, infatuation were given out as love. Over time, it will disappear, and if nothing new has arisen, there is no continuation, then interest is lost.
Also, a man loses interest in a woman if he was deceived in his expectations, they turned out to be in vain, unpromising.
If a woman does not satisfy his needs, desires. No psychological and sexual compatibility, there is little or nothing in common, then the relationship gradually cools down, fades and interest is lost.
Why men leave women
When there is little that binds a man and a woman, feelings pass, relationships are lost, dreams of a brighter future are destroyed, then not all men want to continue such relationships.
There are, of course, people who can maintain the emptiness of relationships, it is easier for them to do this than to admit to themselves that nothing binds them anymore. And the relationship has become obsolete and they have become unnecessary to each other.
Not everyone wants to maintain emptiness, live only for the sake of duties, if there are no feelings, love. Each person is looking for where it will be better for him. Men are also arranged, if there is no mutual understanding in relationships, there is no development, then interest in them disappears and men leave. Sometimes they even go in search of new impressions, sensations, new love.
Why does love fail in men
It is believed that love lives only 4 years, then it must be transformed, renewed. If this is not the case, the relationship has reached a dead end, and only brings discomfort and inconvenience, then the feelings quickly fade.
They cannot burn without nourishment, without anything, if there is an emptiness in the relationship, nothing warms, does not please, does not give pleasure. Interest, feelings disappear, and in the wake of love itself.
It happens that it is so hard for women to accept the truth that their partner does not love them, that they even refuse to understand it by obvious signs.
At the same time, they are constantly looking for signs of love and, if they do not find it, they invent it. The sooner you take off your rose-colored glasses and realize that love is gone or it didn’t exist, the sooner you will be happy in love, if not with this man, then with another. But for this you need to look not for signs of love, but to soberly look at the signs of dislike.
So, your man does not love you if:
He talks about it directly or indirectly. A man can tell you: “Just don’t fall in love with me,” and this means that he himself is not in love and does not plan to burn with feelings for you. He can also say that he has already fallen out of love with his own and will not be able to love. He can say: "I have the most tender feelings for you." This is not all about love, and do not even hope that it will ever appear. If you love him and it is important for you that love is mutual, leave him.
He is cheating on you. Most men in relationships with the woman they love are monogamous. He has no need to change if he loves. He does not even look at others, because among others there is no second such beloved. There are men who are addicted to sex, it is important for them to get sex from different women. However, they can love one. But such men, firstly, are few, and secondly, they often speak directly about their love for many women and even immediately offer an open relationship in which both partners could have relationships on the side. Then it's up to you to decide whether you need the love of such a man. If your loved one convinces you that all men are polygamous, do not try to convince him. Go away, he doesn't love you.
Your relationship has been going on for about six months, but still has not moved from the sex-only format to the format of a relationship without obligations. Often women think that they are in a relationship, while for him it's just sex. Even if you meet not only for sex, but regularly go to movies and restaurants with him, on his part it can only be a relationship without obligations. Has he declared his love to you yet? Didn't want to live with you? Doesn't introduce you to your children from a previous marriage and doesn't try to get to know yours? If you are not satisfied with a sex-only relationship, leave it.
Treats you carelessly. Your man may tell you how much he loves you, but he doesn't care about your safety when you have anal sex. Or maybe say something offensive about your favorite job. Or talks to you about other women, especially if you are not compared to them in your favor. Or, after you said that some of his actions are very unpleasant for you, he continues to do this, saying: “Sorry, well, I’m such a beast, you can’t change me anymore. But I love you!” He does not like, do not console yourself with illusions.
Doesn't call you. If a man does not call you when he goes on a business trip, does not find time during the day to call you to wish "good morning" or "good night", or inquire about your well-being when you report that you are unwell, do not justify him forgetfulness of busyness. A loving man, even when busy, does not forget to call.
Doesn't keep promises. If he promised to do something for you and didn't do it, then it doesn't matter to him. You should not justify this deception and believe that he is busy, forgot or does not have the opportunity. If he regularly forgets or does not have the opportunity, then he simply does not like you very much. Break up with a man for whom you are not so valuable as to turn your words into actions.
Not trying to make your life easier. A man who loves does not even need to ask for help, he will offer it himself, as soon as you hint at some problem. To love is a verb. A person who loves may not talk about love, but his actions speak about his true feelings. A loving man will definitely help you in everyday matters, and with money, and in work, and in raising your children.
He does not propose to you, although he knows that you want to marry him. If a man says to all your hints that the stamp in the passport is not the main thing, although you have been living together for several years, leave him. Even if he loved you at the beginning of the relationship, now his love has faded, and he is kept with you by habit.
Doesn't have sex with you. If your man is not eager to see you without underwear on a regular basis, it does not matter at all whether work eats up all his energy, or whether it is seasonal for him, or he has become more interested computer games. If he loved you, he would somehow deal with this problem. And he just doesn't love you the way he used to. There are men who love and want their women for years. This, of course, is a great merit of women who are able to maintain the fire of love in a relationship. But if the fire of love begins to die down, the first thing that usually goes out is the need for a man to have sex with his partner.
He is not your man. If you are in a love triangle, a man is married and does not leave his wife, do not believe in his love. He doesn't love you enough to sacrifice his comfort. Go away.
You need to leave men who do not love as soon as you realize that you are unloved. In this case, it is likely that he will miss you and his love will flare up with its former strength or become more if it was not enough. Continuing to be in a relationship in which you are not loved, you should not hope that a deep feeling will arise from attachment and habit. Out of habit, only satiety can come.
It is very common to find articles that list signs that a guy is showing sympathy for you. However, in this article I would like to touch on the opposite: signs that indicate that the guy does not love you and perhaps you should break up. If in your relationship you meet the following signs, then you may need to think about ending the relationship. After all, if there is no sympathy and people are indifferent to each other, then there is no point in continuing relationships that have no future.
If you find yourself thinking, “My boyfriend doesn’t love me…” more and more, take a look at these signs. They will help you figure out if he really likes you.
Signs a guy doesn't like you
1. He is not "drawn" to you. Perhaps one of the important signs. It is he who determines whether this is your young man. If you have not kindled the fire of love in his heart and the guy is indifferent, if he does not feel attraction, then happy relationship you don't build. You can make as much effort as you like to please, you can do the most incredible things, but if you are not in his heart, then you should not torture yourself. As you know, you can't be forced to be nice. And here the main role is played by feelings. Listen to your heart, it will never deceive. From the mere thought of him, your heart should respond with a storm of positive emotions. You must literally become one with him.
2. He is "dry" in communication with you. If he has no interest in you, then you are unlikely to wait for interest in communicating with you. However, do not confuse lack of interest with temporary difficulties: your boyfriend may just be afraid to take the first step or think for a long time before answering you. Say, after a quarrel, there is no call or message from him. So, did you dislike him? Or maybe he's just afraid? Lack of interest manifests itself for a long time. You should see in general whether he has the time and opportunity to write, call, and how exactly he disposes of this opportunity or simply ignores it. Another indicator here is the fact that he constantly tries to end your conversation, finds permanent causes finish it. And no matter how hard you try to support communication, you do not see his own initiative.
3. He talks to you the same way he talks to his friends.. It's actually pretty easy to determine. If he always speaks to you in a casual tone, similar to how he communicates with his friends, then he is probably not your destiny. When a guy is interested, there is always at least little change how he talks to you; a change that proves that communication with you is pleasant to him. It can be a special voice, the use of words with diminutive suffixes, a special intonation - anything but monotony and indifference. The best thing you can do in this situation is to observe his behavior and his speech with other people. This will allow you to judge whether the way he acts with you differs from what you saw, and if different, then by how much.
4. He freely tells you about the girls he likes.. Another wake-up call may be the fact that a guy does not hesitate to tell you about past relationships, about the girls he considers ideal, and so on. However, this should not be confused with when it just slipped in to keep the conversation going (all guys do this from time to time, and it's really not a big deal) or you yourself asked him to talk about the ended relationship. However, if you are talking to a guy and he has no problem talking about all the girls he loves or has loved, and all this happens with enviable regularity, then you can take this as a clear sign that your chosen one is not the one who do you need.
5. Body language never lies.. If the guy avoids eye contact, sits far away from you, does not try to make body contact(take your hand, support on the steps), his conversation takes place without any gestures or he keeps his distance from you, then you can regard all this as signs that he is not interested and does not want to have any relationship with you.
6. He does not want to look for free time for meetings.. You rarely meet, he constantly has excuses in order to reschedule the meeting. And this happens more than once or twice. This began to happen systematically. It must be remembered that someone who really wants to meet you will do everything possible and impossible to make this meeting happen. And for him, neither time of day, nor distance, nor employment will matter. As you know, whoever wants - is looking for an opportunity, who does not want - the reason ...
7. He doesn't just flirt with you.. As noted above, the behavior of a guy with other people can be used to judge the importance of you in his life. Take a closer look at how he behaves in a female society: does he go beyond what is permitted, what are his speech and gestures, does he flirt, does he try to show himself in a more favorable light. When you find this, it's worth thinking about. Of course, you can assume that he is just a friendly, social, outgoing guy. However, if he behaves with other girls in the same way as with you, then he has no particular interest in your society.
8. He hides his emotions and feelings. If a guy feels something for you, then he will certainly report feelings sooner or later. And it's not even about the words. This will be seen by himself (actions, look, speech). If the guy does not show any emotions, best thing what you can do is to give him some space and freedom. Just to make sure you don't waste your time on it. Let the initiative in the relationship pass completely into his hands. If you don’t see any special changes, then you are unlikely to wait for the continuation of these same relationships ...
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Men and women show their love in different ways. This universal rule does not apply unless too sensitive men.
It's no secret that men and women think differently. Women tend to think and make decisions based on their feelings rather than logic, which sometimes puzzles men.
With that said, you can still notice certain behaviors in men that indicate that they love their woman very much.
How to understand a loving man
1. He listens carefully to you (keyword "ATTENTIVELY")
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Most often, women are better at listening than men. To be honest, men have terrible listening skills.
An interesting fact is that men always focus their attention on what interests them. This means that if a man listens to you and intelligently answers some of your questions - an ability that is called "active listening" - you can be sure that he is fascinated by you.
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Sacrificing something is much easier if you love someone. Moreover, a man in love will feel great discomfort at the thought that their beloved woman is unhappy - especially if they can correct the situation.
Given the above, sacrificing for happiness is a clear sign that he loves you. He will almost always put you first, even if he has to change his plans or step out of his comfort zone to do so.
3. He shows his weakness (this point is very important)
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A real man will carefully choose his behavior so as not to show others any weakness. However, when he loves, this deep-seated trait disappears - he just doesn't care what others think.
When we love, we are much more comfortable expressing feelings that can show our weakness. In a relationship, weakness, one way or another, will manifest itself.
How a loving man behaves
4. He likes the way you look in your " worst days"
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During the first dates, women try very hard to look 100%. But, when she has been in a relationship for a long time, and spends a lot of time with her man, she becomes more and more comfortable, she wants to surprise him less, and she no longer spends a lot of time on her preparations.
At such a time, a woman can walk around the house in pajamas, wrinkled shirts and bathrobes and forget about hairspray and the like.
When a man loves someone, he will consider a woman beautiful in any situation.
5. He's proud of you (and isn't afraid to show it)
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In love, a man is not afraid to say or show how proud he is of his woman.
You can be an amazing mom, a great employee, or you can strive for your goals, you can be sure that your work will not go unnoticed.
Moreover, a man who loves gets great pleasure when he sees what you have achieved and how you work.
How to understand what a man loves
6. Hefightsperyou
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Here is one real story:
One guy visited the hospital, where his girlfriend was harassed by one of the guards with one of his colleagues. He found out exactly where the guards were and was just furious. When he calmed down a bit, he decided to comb the hospital and finally found the villains who offended his girlfriend.
He rolled up his sleeves and pounced on them. Despite the fact that the guards were armed, no one was hurt. What really turned the guy on was the voice of his girlfriend and the pain that was heard in him. These notes of real inner pain can only be heard by a truly loving person.
Signs of a loving man
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Of course, this does not mean offending or insulting anyone, let alone physical violence.
A loving man may start a quarrel if he has put a lot of emotions into the relationship and is afraid of losing you.
Why is this happening? He's just afraid. One small threat to the relationship is enough, and it will be tantamount to a punch in the stomach. If a man starts a quarrel for a specific purpose, he just wants to prove his loyalty.
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If he knows that there are people who are not indifferent to you, then these people become important to him too. The reason is simple: you love your family and friends, and the last thing he wants to do is hurt your feelings.
And although one of her family members or one of her friends may not like him, the man will not show this, because he knows what this person means to you.